Domestic Violence and Abuse

Safety Planning

Safety planning is an ongoing process, it is good to contact your local domestic violence shelter and connect with an advocate who can help.

If you are still in the relationship:

  • Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs – avoid rooms with no exits, the bathroom, and rooms with weapons.
  • Practice how to get out safely of your home safely.
  • Keep purse/wallet and car keys readily available.
  • Memorize all important numbers.
  • Teach children to call 911 or other emergency numbers in your area.
  • Think about a safe place to go or safe person to contact.
  • Rehearse an escape plan. Practice it with your children.
  • Open a savings account if possible

Items to consider taking when leaving:

  • Identification
  • Birth certificates
  • Social security cards
  • School and vaccination records
  • Marriage license and/or divorce papers
  • Leases or deeds in both names
  • Money, checkbook, ATM card, charge card, bank books
  • House and car keys
  • Pay stubs or W-2 for both of you
  • Drivers License and registration
  • Medications
  • Welfare identification, work permits, green card, passport
  • Bank statements and charge account statements
  • Documentation of past incidents
  • Insurance policies

If you have left the relationship:

  • Change your phone number.
  • Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries, or incidents.
  • Change locks if batterer has key.
  • Avoid staying alone.
  • Plan how to get away if confronted by batterer.
  • Vary your routine.
  • Keep your protection order on or near you.
  • Give the protection order to police departments in communities where you live and work.
  • If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
  • Inform your employer, spiritual leader, close friends and relatives that you have a protection and show them a picture of the abuser.
  • Ask for help screening calls at work.